This month’s topic is not something I typically write about yet it has been coming up in so many conversations I’ve had with clients lately that I felt the need to address it. Money. How do you feel about it? What are your thoughts about it? Have you ever taken the time to really examine these two questions? If not, I urge you to do so because most of us have some pretty strong beliefs when it comes to money.
There has been a wealth (no pun intended) of research studies done around the concept of self-fulfilling prophecies and the evidence is very clear. Put simply, what we believe we create. And I happen to believe that this is true in all aspects of our life including our finances. Two of the most common beliefs I’ve heard clients express regarding money are:
Limiting Belief #1: I’ll never have enough money.
Or put another way: I fear I’ll run out of money.
If we adopt an attitude of scarcity around money it will always feel like it is in short supply to us. No matter how much we have we will never be able to enjoy it because of that deeply held fear.
Limiting Belief #2: Money is the root of all evil.
We’ve all heard that phrase a million times before but does it ring true for you? If we really believe that money causes harm we will subconsciously find ways to rid ourselves of it.
So, what are some of your limiting beliefs about money? Have you noticed how your thoughts influence your behavior towards money? Do you push it away? Cling to it too tightly? Do you feel worthy and deserving of it? Do you feel guilty for wanting more? Are you afraid of it? These are all important questions to ask yourself (by the way, these questions can help you uncover unhealthy thought patterns in other areas too – just substitute any other word(s) for money such as “dream job” or “significant other”).
This is what I know to be true about money:
We should treat money like we would a dear friend.
Respect it. Enjoy it. Be happy to share it with others. Love it and it will love you back.
Money simply magnifies who we are.
If we are someone who wants to do good in this world, we will use money to spread love, joy and abundance. Have you held the mistaken belief that if more money came into your life that would mean there would be less for others? If so, consider this: No one ever got poor because Oprah Winfrey got rich. It’s quite the opposite actually.
So, as you clean out your closets this spring why not clean out some of the clutter in your mind around money. My experience has been that if you can release your fears and negative feelings and get healthy with your thoughts around money, it might just show up in your life in some of the most unexpected ways. And, you’ll know just what to do with it!
“Money is usually attracted, not pursued.”