Our family is anxiously awaiting the arrival of a new puppy in our household. Our puppy was born on Valentine’s Day and when he was only three days old we were able to spend the day with him, his mom and his nine brothers and sisters. As we sat with the puppies for hours, I was reminded of two invaluable lessons by their amazing mother, Kiarra, and I felt compelled to share them with all of you…
Be In the Moment
Kiarra is a mother of ten! That alone should say it all. What struck me in the many hours that we were with her was her always calm and ever present demeanor. She was not fretting over her decisions from the day before nor was she the least bit anxious about what was to come tomorrow. Instead, she was simply fully and completely present in each and every moment.
She knew just when the puppies needed to nurse and she would come into their box and lay down and let out a great big sigh as they all made their way toward her. When one of the puppies got lost under her leg, she didn’t panic but instead, she gently nudged him with her nose to an area where he could latch on without disturbing his brothers or sisters.
I couldn’t help but think back to all the times when my kids were infants and my heart rate increased as anxious thoughts raced through my head. Am I doing this right? Are they hungry? Uncomfortable? Too tight in the swaddle that I worked so hard to master?
Looking back, it was the times when probably sheer exhaustion caused me to let go of fear and worry that my babies and I just melted together and fell asleep more easily than either one of us had ever done before.
“If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves.”
Trust Your Inner Wisdom
Even though she probably didn’t get a chance to read any “What to Expect When You’re Expecting a Liter of Ten” books, Kiarra was relaxed and confident and instinctively knew exactly how to tend to all ten puppies at once.
At one point in the day, Kiarra had left the puppies in their box and had gone into another room. One of the puppies started to squeal and cry. Kiarra calmly walked over to the puppy box, hopped in and saw that the distraught puppy had been separated from his siblings and didn’t know how to find his way back. She nudged him back until he felt warm and secure and then knew that the puppies were fine to once again be left on their own.
Again, I thought of the many times that I had struggled as a parent to know what to do for my children. It was only when I allowed myself to get still, very still and listen to my intuition that I always knew as their mother what they needed most in each and every moment.
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
So, thank you Kiarra for your beautiful reminders – you are a mother that has inspired me. And, thank you to the Rios family for taking such great care of Kiarra and our sweet Bruno until he is ready to come home to us. If any of you are ready to welcome a puppy into your home, visit Riverdoodles. A few of these sweet puppies are still looking for a loving family!