Henry Ford once said, “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right,” and this has become one of my very favorite quotes. In fact, my mantra to myself, my kids and my clients is, “If you can dream it, you can do it.”
Yet, clients often try to convince me why they are the exception to this. Right after they tell me what they really want in life they immediately follow up with a statement like, “But there is no way that can ever happen because… of the job I have; I have kids to take care of; I can’t afford it; etc.” The sad truth is that as long as they hold that belief they will be right. Time and time again, I witness that the reason why things aren’t working out for people the way they want them to is because they don’t believe things will work out.
Other people are simply afraid of dreaming too big so they keep their dreams really small so as not to be disappointed. And to that I often share another powerful quote by Rosalind Russell, “Life’s a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death.”
So, if you want to start partaking in the banquet of life, I’d like to share a few simple steps that can help you make your dreams a reality…
- Post your dreams: Think of something right now that you really want in your life. Don’t hold back, really let yourself dream big. Now, write it down somewhere or find a picture that represents it and put it where you will see it a lot. I have a bulletin board in my bathroom that faces the mirror so I am bound to look at it at least twice a day as I brush my teeth. I change it often but recently I posted a picture of an airplane flying through a sunset because I wanted to have more travel and adventure in my life.
- Talk about your dream as if it has already happened: Research shows that when we talk or write about things as if they have already happened our brain goes into something called tracking mode and finds ways to get us there. After putting the picture of the plane on my bulletin board I started talking to my husband and kids about the summer of adventure we were going to have. I really believed it was going to happen despite the fact that we had no plans, no extra income to make it happen and my husband’s job is the type where he goes into the office every day.
- Let go of the idea that achieving your dream has to be hard: So often people create obstacles where there aren’t any, or sabotage opportunities that come their way all because they feel like it has to be hard work to get to where they want to go. Our dreams should feel fun, playful and exciting and then we will find fun, playful and exciting ways to make them a reality. The key here is that when things become imaginable to you, they suddenly become possible. In my case, as soon as my brain went into tracking mode around my “summer of adventure” some pretty unique opportunities came our way that made my dream a reality – beyond what I had imagined.
So, as we get ready to kick off summer I’d love for all of you to think of one dream you have for yourself. Remember, it’s okay to want life to just keep getting better and better. Whether your life is a 1 or a 9 on a scale of 1-10, we are all deserving and worthy of getting to 10 but we have to reach out and claim it! So, write down that dream and start talking about it as if it’s happened and when it does send me an email at Teresa@flourishandthrive.com. I can’t wait to hear from you!
“We must look for ways to be an active force in our own lives.
We must take charge of our own destinies and truly begin to live our dreams.”